Mars vs Venus (Adolescence)

Adolescence: "I need to belong"

Girls as teenagers

Teenage girls are obsessed with their looks. The brain sends signals on how to become a woman. The high levels of estrogen makes their physical appearance their ultimate reason of existence. Girls are more prone to the stress caused by social interactions, while boys who react get stressed when their authority is jeopardized.

In the first two weeks of woman's cycle, when the estrogen levels are high, they will be more interested in socializing and be more relaxed. Their brains think faster, sharper and are more alert. Girl's brain is at its peak activity in the 12th day of the cycle. In the last two weeks, when progesteron levels are high, they will be more irritated and want to be left alone. That is when they tend to feel anxious, aggressive and cry very often.

The teenage girls find relaxation and comfort in socializing with their friends and through those conversations they are overcoming hardships and celebrating the joys. At the same time, the system for the emotional control and instinct in the prefrontal cortex is still underdeveloped. Therefore, girls tend to become obsessed with a thought and put immediately into action. It is not rare that teenage girls suffer from depression and make everything more dramatic than it seems. The parents should rather choose to be hated by their daughter and do the right thing, than allow her to have it her way.

Girls also expect to have highly stimulating interactions with boys, which rarely happens. In fact, the difference in level of communication remains a constant challenge in male - female relationships. In teenage ages boys have high levels of testosteron which makes them even more isolated and quiet, and less willing to socialize.

Boys as teenagers

The main change in the male brain is the high level of testosteron, which increases the sex drive. In addition there is an increase in vasopressin that makes a boy vulnerable towards rejection. It will take 8 to 9 years for the brain to become mature.

The parts in the brain responsible for attention and reasonableness are weakened by high levels of vasopressin and testosteron. That is why boys will be less focused on homework and more focused on girls and having fun in general (mostly playing video games).

At the age of 14, boys will go to bed later than girls and want to wake up later. They are more bored and their receptors for pleasurable moments from success are very hard to activate.

Boys react strongly at any signs of danger and are more likely to defend themselves. While the girls can at this age talk for hours, boys keep their communication very short and to the point. They are very sensitive to what others say about them. Even a compliment can be considered as an insult. Fitting into the social groups is the most important thing in the world.

The self-confidence in directly correlated with the impression they leave with their peers.

They feel confident to do whatever they want and feel no fear. That is why they are very likely to get into trouble.